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BUILDING A HEALTHIER SELF-ESTEEM​

 

Ask yourself, Queen:

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  • "Do I not trust my own opinion?"

  • "Do I tend to overthink?"

  • "Do I suffer from anxiety and/or frequent emotional storms?"

  • "Do I criticize myself constantly?"

  • "Do I blame myself for everything?"

  • "Do I only focus on my weaknesses?"

  • "Do I shy away from asserting myself as much as I should?"

  • "Do I apologize a lot?"

  • "Do I avoid challenges or try to be perfect?"

  • "Do I usually feel self-conscious?"

  • "Do I find the need to please others before myself?"

  • "Do I feel like I don’t deserve niceties or luxury?"

  • "Do I not think of myself much at all…?"

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If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, you may struggle with low self-esteem, Queen. But that’s okay, because we’re here to help!

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When you go through a difficult time, it can affect the way you see yourself. For example, if you lose your job, go through a divorce, or drop out of college, you may internalize these negative experiences and believe that it’s your fault and that you caused these bad things to happen.

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You can overcome low self-esteem with the right support, mindset, and change in behaviors. Start with these steps to begin improving your self-esteem:


1. Surround yourself with positive people and remove the negative ones from your life. Spending time with those who are negative will only reinforce your low opinion of yourself. It’s better to surround yourself with individuals who are supportive and encouraging.

 

  • If you’re fortunate enough to have positive influences in your life, listen to them when they say you’ve done a good job. Avoid ignoring compliments because you feel unworthy. If you were undeserving of the praise, you wouldn’t be getting it.

 

2. Avoid telling yourself you “should have,” “could have,” or “would have.” If you’re constantly telling yourself, “I could have done this,” or “I should have done that,” you’re focusing on things that have already happened, Queen. It’s better to look to the future and say, “Next time, I’ll do this,” or “I’m going to do that.”

 

3. Set reasonable expectations. Accept that you are human, and human beings make mistakes. If you’re unwilling to accept anything less than perfection from yourself, you’ll feel completely discouraged when you inevitably make a mistake.

 

  • Avoid letting mistakes get you down. Remember that every mistake you make is an opportunity to learn and grow if you allow it.

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4. Recognize and celebrate your accomplishments. If your self-esteem is lacking, you might spend a lot of time focusing on the negative. Acknowledge your accomplishments and allow yourself to be happy. It’s okay to be proud of yourself, Queen.

 

5. Volunteer for a charitable organization. Working to help others will make you feel good about yourself and help boost your self-esteem.

 

  • It’s difficult to have a poor opinion of yourself when you’re supporting a good cause.

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6. Make a list of all your best qualities. Write down your strengths, skills, talents, and positive personality traits.

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  • When people have low self-esteem, they often focus on all of the things they dislike about themselves. Taking some time to focus on your good qualities can have a very positive effect.

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7. Consider seeking professional help. In more extreme cases, low self-esteem can have a negative impact on a person’s life and mental health.

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  • A person with very low self-esteem may have issues in their relationships, trouble in their careers, or a number of other challenges. Sometimes, esteem issues can lead to anxiety, social withdrawal, depression, or even suicide.
     

If low self-esteem is causing chaos in your work and/or personal life, contact us today. We can provide you with additional strategies for increasing your self-esteem—while discovering the underlying issues that caused your low self-esteem in the first place.
 

Affirm: I Increase My Self-Esteem by Focusing on My Positive Qualities »

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